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Rabbi Fink Is Right

24 May

What if some woman would write into us from Yemen about how upset she is at the media’s portrayal of the state of Muslim women, and how wonderful this Muslim lifestyle is, and how she can leave whenever she wants, and how beautiful the Koran’s view of women is and how all her friends are so happy etc, and she just fails to mention that she and her friends are Americans with enough education, means and outside ties to leave whenever they want, and the country really has no way of stopping them because they’re American citizens?

I wonder if the baalei tshuva talking about the XOJane Chaya article can see how much of an outrage that would cause among Arabic women who left Muslim countries to live in America and who are trying to raise awareness of the abuse they and their sisters and mothers are going through. And how they would respond to things like “I’m sorry you went through that, but that’s not how REAL Islam is supposed to be like.” Fuck you, that’s EXACTLY how real Islam is in most Arab countries, whether you live it or not. How dare you cover up someone else’s pain because it interferes with the image of your beautiful kumbaya lifestyle.

Before the Cold War, socialists in England during Lenin and Stalin’s reign, when millions of people were being slaughtered in Russia,  did whatever they could to stop the reports of the mass starvations and killings happening in Russia from being published. Not because they were under any threat from Stalin. This was the 1930’s, England was the most powerful country on Earth. They did it entirely to save a Utopian idea. They willingly sacrificed millions of Russian people to save an idea that had never worked outside of the drawing board. If you think for a moment that that’s what God wants, I really don’t know what to say.

Do research. Look at the facts on the ground and report them accurately. Don’t ignore other people or fake that you know how other people live to promote your own vision.


Rabbi Fink’s excellent article: http://finkorswim.com/2012/05/22/dear-chaya/



Israel: Land Of The Tough, Home Of The Crazy (In A Good Way)

15 Nov

This girl can kick your ass.

I think we can all agree that Israel is a really cool place. It’s the State where all different kinds of Jews can come together and fight with each other. The way I look at it, it’s like what would happen if you made Brooklyn into a country, except that the Italians and Blacks and Latinos are also Jewish. Oh, and everyone’s a little Sephardi. Plus, they all have chest hair and cell phones and chain-smoke. I think that covers it. Wait- it’s not like Brooklyn because people are nicer in Israel. Ok, this whole analogy is a mess.

They used to have an Israeli Jerry Springer-rip off show called “Only in Israel” (ironically). That was a fun show. But you don’t need to watch TV to be entertained in Israel. Just walk down a street in Geula and watch 4 year olds playing chicken with the cars while their mothers are going shopping. Or the gangs of 2-4 year olds hanging out on street corners at 1 in the morning. There’s no clearly defined system on how to make a Israeli, but I think this provides a pretty good outline. It’s something along the lines of survival of the craziest.

Obviously, so can this one.

Now, don’t try to argue with me based on one tough American you know. Israelis are 1000 times tougher than us. That’s all Israelis. Even the women. No, especially the women. Even the nicest, skinniest Hebrew university student with the nerdiest srugy can have you running and crying in under a minute.

And that’s how we get to my TV series idea. Here it is: Basically, it’s 24, but Israeli. Now, you’re all thinking, “No, anything but more 24!”, and I totally understand, but just hear me out. You have a whole team of cool Israeli agents- female: dark and sexy, with their shirts half open, male: same thing, but more chest hair and a chai necklace- solving much more realistic terrorist plots. (If you think about it, “Shin Bet” has a very similar ring to “24“. Just throwing that out there.) Except it’s Israel, so it’s not over the top if the actors try to act super cool and tough. They could all dress in leather jackets and sunglasses, and report to a Joint Chiefs-type body made up of 8 fat, smoking, short-sleeve-white-shirt-open-necked-with-chest-hair, balding men distinguishable only by their levels of tan, and you’d say, “Yeah, looks pretty authentically Israel to me”.

Hey, just think about it, ok? It could be huge.

And this one.

Hat tip: Israeli army girls pics from here.

Why Do Women Like Kids?

25 Aug

Why aren't there more Amazons?

I was thinking last night how great it is that women like kids. I mean, they really like them, even when the parents aren’t around. It really works out well because if it was up to men, I think there would be very few kids around.

Is it a psychological thing, mother’s love? Do women have kids because they are naturally weaker than men and can’t compete in the getting resources/aggressive role, so historically, they’ve adjusted their worth to being in terms of having and nurturing kids for the males, or having males themselves?

If so, then this forced, default value system is really lucky because otherwise there would be no continuity. It seems like someone would have set the system up this way, like God.

Or maybe this is evolutionarily-based. The only members of the weaker sex (or women) that survived in the tribe were those that were submissive to the men. Maybe the women that survived better were the ones that were naturally more submissive. And if we go with this theory, maybe there’s a gene in the human race that makes some people dominant and another gene that makes others submissive. The submissive gene could be like blond hair- either sex can get it, but it’s only helpful for females. And the aggressive one is only helpful for males. But both are passed down equally to the sexes, and men have to pretend to be aggressive, and women, the opposite.

Could we ever test if such genes exist, or if the whole thing is entirely psychological? Assuming that either one of these theories is correct. Maybe one of you who’ve learned some science past the yeshiva high school level can shed some light here.

Men Don’t Read Women’s Blogs

19 Jun

We all agree that women’s blogs are really boring, the only question is why. What was that? You’re saying not all women write like that? But you admit most of them do, right? Oh, you know, they either write about food in pornographic detail, or dating (same detail), or touchy-feely spirituality (same detail again, somehow).

Now, we can’t say that people write about things in their domain, and the most common things that women occupy their time with are dating and food, just like nerds talk about movies, and financial analysts talk about finance, and average Joes talk about sports. We can’t say that because that would be sexist and wrong. So let’s try to figure out the real answer.

How about women are more sensitive, so they talk about more spiritual…nah. Oh, women have more taste buds than men and see more colors…nah. You know what, screw it. It’s my blog and I’ll write what I want.

I think that, in general, women are still preoccupied with that sexist old idea of getting married, having kids, and being a mother. They don’t care about what the Yankees do and they’re not trying to show how funny they are. And as long as men still want feminine women, and enough women want to fill that role, then food, beauty, sex, and spirituality will be front and center. Just like as long as women want men to be masculine, and enough men want to fill that role, competitive sports, alcohol, entrepreneurship and killing will all be dominated by men.

Now that I’ve said my piece, here are some women’s blogs I enjoy:

http://datingtheory.blogspot.com/ (Sharp and funny frum dating advice)

http://spoonicus19.blogspot.com/ (Funny random blog)

http://thelastmuggle.com/ (Hilarious Harry Potter blog)

http://shomernegiah.blogspot.com/ (Depressing but smart Frum dating issues blog)

http://toohardtofindaurl.blogspot.com/ (Funny random blog)